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What wold you have done here ?

Discussion in 'General chit chat' started by leaky5, Jun 1, 2014.

  1. leaky5

    leaky5 Donator

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    Probably going to get a mix of responses on this one.

    Yesterday evening, about 20:30, heard the loudest screaming I have ever heard. Girl friend of guy across the road comes running up to our front windows. We are close to the road and she could see we were there.

    I opened the door thinking something had happened out side and she starts shouting at me to call the police as he has been beating here up (again) and he has a record of doing it to her (1st question is 'why are you still here then')

    She had car her car keys and a phone, I said why can't you ring them, and she said he had broken the phone. He then got in his car to start driving off, she goes and sits on the bonnet to stop him (why I don't know).

    She says she just wants to leave, but wants to get her stuff first, but does not want to go back into the flat alone. I agree to go into the flat with her (with his permission) so she can get her bits.

    He is a bit verbal with her and kicks one of her bags across the room (I just stood at the top of the stairs with a straight exit to the front door). Think he had been drinking as there were beer cans on the table. She gets her bits and leaves. He did not follow as I saw him go out in a taxi about 45 minutes later. He was fine with me at the time, never normally see the guy, bit anti social and rarely says hello or anything.

    My wife was out, but she thinks I should have just given her our phone and told her to ring the police if she wanted. She thinks I was stupid going into the flat. In hind sight she was probably right, but at the time I did not have time to think.

    Not sure if I should mention it to one of my neighbours who is an area car driver for the local force, just in case they should keep an eye on things for a few days. Typical he was out last night or if that is to late now.
     
  2. ratman60

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    hello, your wife was right but i think was a brave thing to do and hope there is no backlash from him but i am sure you can sort it, from what you also mention you might have saved the ladies life had she not gone from this situation. so well done leaky 5 :thumb:
     
  3. jantar

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    Like last post........:rolleyes: The only sensible thing you could do in those circumstances is the wise thing and stay totally out of it. Obviously it is a regular thing and they aere still together (f knows why) so all you would get in return is hassle, maybe worse, from either of them depending on which one took offence at your 'interference'. It has been known for both to turn on the 'helper'. Let the bobbies deal with it simply by giving them a call and telling them there is a violent disturbance and do not leave your name!!!!!!!!!! Sad thing is that they probably would not turn up until well after it had settled down anyway....
    That I am afraid is how the society of today acts. Too much drink and not enough brains, decency or common sense. Sadly loads of the youth of today seem to want everything their own way and sod anyone else. Hope it all works out for you..........
     
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  4. Stevie Darling

    Stevie Darling Sexual tyrannosaurus

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    Past experience has taught me never to get involved in booze related domestics, I would of phoned the police for her and let them sort it out!

    A mate of helped a young lass a few years back, her man was begining to get a bit heavy, so my mate went to calm him down and got a bottle over the head for his trouble, from her!!

    Then it was the husband trying to calm her down!! With drink evolved, the situation could off easily turned on you
     
  5. larryking28

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    Would have kept well out of it myself.
    There is a couple by me that are always arguing in the street late at night.
    I think it is work related,he is out all day cleaning windows and i get the impression she isnt happy about it and after a few drinks it all kicks off.
    Makes me wonder why they are still together.
     
  6. yorkshireshoot

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    As above mate , you did the right thing in helping someone out but sometimes they need to help themselves . See it all the time lasses who like the " bad boy " and end up gettin a hiding every few weeks and they seem to enjoy it ? It does nothing for genuine women who are victims of domestic violence as police get sick of nicking the same guy time after time and then all charges get dropped cos she loves him . Anyway I congratulate you for stepping in but personally I wouldn't have got involved .
     
  7. leaky5

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    Well got a phone call from one of my kids while out shopping, apparently she turned back up this morning and walked straight back in.

    Lets see what happens next, I can tell you one thing that won't be and that is me going over there again.
     
  8. Stevie Darling

    Stevie Darling Sexual tyrannosaurus

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    You did your good turn mate:up:

    If she goes back then its nowt to do with you!
     
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    once had a neighbour like that, in end decided she was an adrenaline junkie. at time he frightened the life out of her and she reported to police etc.....always dropped action and got back together.
    one day heard her on back garden talking to her sister, bragging about one time when he had her pinned against wall by neck with her feet in air drumming on wall.
    she really enjoyed telling story ....probably why she always went back to him and could frequently be heard deliberately winding him up......thank C they've moved .
     
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    Hi mate, well done all I can say is it's down to the individual to decide at the time and at this time you did what you thought was right it's a hard thing to say you was right wrong ect luckily no one was hurt further so in my eyes you did what was right
    Top job mate
     
  11. Trampilot

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    Difficult situation that. Hindsight is great but faced with all that I think it was the right outcome. The only thing I may have done is told my wife to wait outside the house with a fingers poised on 999 just in case.

    I once came across a woman lying facedown in the street. After some failed attempts to wake her she eventually got up. As soon as she opened her mouth it was like the brewery had just spilt every barrel. Called the cops because she was wondering around in the road but they refused to come out as they'd already been out twice!

    Actually just remembered another couple of oddities.

    Walking to college one day, this girl (who got on a few stops after) started having a go at this bloke. Telling him to leave her alone. Asked her if she was alright. Ended up going on a couple of dates... never waste an opportunity!

    Another one was a little more serious. Was walking to work in London down a passageway and I could see a car screech to a halt at the end of the tunnel. A man got out and started sprinting towards me. Crap I thought. But he ran past. I turned to see him remonstrating with a woman walking a girl to school. I calmly kept walking on and planned the following if the struggle was continuing. I could hear pretty much everything.

    1. Go to the car (the engine was still running) and take the keys.
    2. Call the police and report an abduction whilst he wandered what he did with his keys.

    Now this could have been the chaps daughter but he was very aggressive. Felt this was the best option. By the time I'd reached the car he'd sprinted back to the car and driven off - alone. Whilst taking the keys could have put me in danger I weighed up the severity of what might be happening and NOT doing anything.
     
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  12. Andy-K2

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    I have to agree with this post. Years ago I was riding my motorbike past a couple who were arguing and he gave her a huge right hook into her cheek. I pulled over and told him it was just not on to hit a girl like that, before I knew it she was on my back biting and scratching, he too was throwing punches etc. Ok, I managed to sort him out but what do you do with a maniac girl....Anyway, never again would I get involved. I would have told her to go elsewhere. Don't get me wrong if your neighbours bloke was following her across the road, that would have been very different, but I won't get involved ever again.
     
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    Ah, domestics... I think you did the right thing at the right time in the right place for you. I'm not sure I'd have done it the same way but then I wasn't there. So, good call. Next time it happens, and it sounds like there will be a next time, maybe play it differently and not put yourself in a position of risk.
     

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