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What We Do For Our Kids

Discussion in 'Get it off your chest' started by Margaret13, Jan 17, 2020.

  1. Margaret13

    Margaret13 Honorary Member

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    Next Tuesday My husband and I are helping my daughter and her other half move in to their own place ( at last ) As much as I have a good bond with my daughter over the last few days I have been thinking what will change and here is a few things … Less washing as well as her wearing something for an hour before its hits wash basket her boyfriend would leave his for me to do too.... shopping bill will be less than half as they can' t tell me what to get , Tv control my Husband and I will get back we can have a say what to watch evenings , heating on and off as we want not being told I'm too hot I'm too cold , we can pick what we really want for dinner less dishes to wash after ,No waiting for the bathroom while they have a hour long shower and so I could go on , the point of my post is when did we let ourselves be the ones answering to them . Is anyone else keeping the peace at a price.
     
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    When my lad left for uni first thing I noticed was the house smelt a lot nicer. :D
     
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    Ha ha, well done Margaret. Sounds like you will get full control back.

    I have a 12 and 16 year old boys, they live with my ex wife up north and I know she lets them rule the house so when they come to me they get a shock or if we stay at my parents with them, they have stated many times grandad is too strict when in fact he isn't it's just they are not used to being told 'no'. I was brought up with my brother in a world where kids did whatever their parents did and to respect elders. I personally don't see the issue with that but these days to my mind kids get far too much, demand more and have very little respect of their elders.
     
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    Ours both left home about a year ago. Felt very strange and still find ourselves cooking way too much.

    Took a while to adjust, but love it.

    Still see them once a week to fortnight.

    Still spoil them rotten. Can't help either cook them something or take them somewhere. At least I know they eat properly a few times a month.

    Oh yeah and they have the dogs when we go away.

    Dave
     
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    What do we do for our kids? Simple you live to a ripe old age, long enough for you to become a burden to them, that way you avenge yourself for all the aggro they caused you when they were young.;):D
     
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    Mortimer Lord Haw Haw

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    Enjoy, Margaret. :D
    It's when they pitch-up, out of the blue, after years of living elsewhere and 'a few weeks' ends up longer that it gets really wearing.
     
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    Win, win situation Margaret, though you will continue to spoil your lass, just on your terms in future :up:
     
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    When my last one left home, I went round the house and switched all the lights on, (just because I could).

    it was one of my biggest bug bares, they would walk into a room and switch the light on even in daylight, then walkout leaving the light on,

    Three children and I thought that I was pay the National Grid bill every time my utilities bill dropped on the doormat.

    Also all of the above that Margaret mentioned and a few more to boot.

    Then the house was so quiet, you could hear a pin drop, it took some getting used too but I got over it.

    Regards.
    Les.
     
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    Give it a year or two and they’ll be dropping off rugrats to keep you busy. Now might be a good time to move somewhere remote.
     
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    Mortimer Lord Haw Haw

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    My daughter lives not far from me and whenever I visit I walk round switching off lights--it's usually in daylight. Old habits die hard. :D
     
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    yes we will cook far too much ,but I will put some in freezer for a easy dinner , we will see them lots , but we all need our own space. I will be the same with spoiling them .
     
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    This is the mistake you bad parents make, after all, children are products of their environment, Iv'e done sweet FA for my kids since the day they were born, i couldn't even be bothered to be at the birth (pub was open) my wife has learned not to phone me in an emergency "can you pick them up from school, take them to the doctor, call an ambulance? NO! Emmerdale is on.
     
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    Now 52yrs old and have kids age 33,30 and 27 yrs old .All working and have their own homes.However I took all their house keys from them :oops:as they used to take the peese and freeload on the heating and food when we were at work:facepalm:.They even expected my wife to do loads of laundry for them:down:.I`m all for lending a helping hand to the unfortunate:thumb:,but taking the peese .:down:
     
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    :laff::laff: The bit about the shower really made me smile, Connor and his girlfriend are just the same and it's a real ball ache. Tam sent me this pic a couple of days ago............Dom

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    A willing horse is easily saddled
    That would NOT have happened in MY house
     
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    You have been doing it all wrong :D When my daughter and partner come to stay, they eat what they are given, at a time that we normally eat and if they don't like it, there is always bread and cheese, if they prefer. She does put her clothes in our linen bin for washing, but I always pull them out and tell her to get on with it and if she doesn't have enough for a load then she can wash some of ours as well to make up the load. TV remote is my domain and if they want to watch something that I am not interested in, then they can tape it and watch it when I am not watching TV. Now that they have left, don't let them fall into bad habits when they visit:thumb:

    Regards
    Peter
     
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    Just a change... and MORE... more DIY for hubby at the new house... more travel for you (and the expense of)... more getting things for them they have forgotten to buy (which you will either have stocked or be expected to buy... need I go on?!! :eek:

    Sadly, it doesn't stop when they leave home. Both expectations and self-reliance of young adults today are very different from when we were same age. :facepalm:
     
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    We stop with ours occasionally, I won't shave. At my age, I take longer to recover from infection.

    Dave
     
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    Most of us will do whatever is in our power to help our children. My daughter is a bit spoiled, but she has given us so many things to be very proud of. She loves to argue with the queen of arguing, my wife. My daughter seems to think when she turns 18 she is instantly an adult. I nearly fell off the couch laughing one night. She asked me at what age did I think a person is considered an adult. I told her that I was only 60 and didn't really feel like an adult yet.:D
     
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