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What drives a kid to suicide ?

Discussion in 'General chit chat' started by andyh, May 29, 2008.

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  1. andyh

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    I really had a shock tuesday, a lady I've known only a couple of days, just started working for my mate in his office, very pleasant and around mid 40's went on holiday with some of my mates as a firms weekend beano. They hadn't long arrived at the camp site when my mate heard her screaming. She had had a phone call from home telling her that her 19 year old daughter had committed suicide. Apparently took an overdose and suffocated herself. That's exactly what she did.
    I just don't understand what on earth could drive a young girl to such a thing. It also turns out that my brothers daughters cousin was best mates with this girl and it seems that there was absolutely no idea she was so desperate.
    Sorry to be morbid guys, I'm just numb that such a thing is becoming so common. Just what is going on in the minds of these kids ?
     
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    Sorry to hear about that mate. I dont have a clue why a young woman would de that but she must have been really desprat to do it
     
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    maby its exams :frusty:

    on a more serious note, i cant see the logic in it.
    mental health i guess, something has to drive you crazy or you get brain washed like this emo stuff where peope comimit self harm till one day it goes too far.
    the bully victims become manicaly depresed and then they top them selves.

    i think its to do with peoples mental state, or they dont have one:confused:
     
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    I think theres to much pressure on kids these days . the way you look . the way you dress . can they find a job etc .how skiny they are how pretty they are leads to depresion and in some cases these poor kids commit suicide . more help and understanding is needed by every one . people say suicide is a cowards way out i think it takes a brave person or severly disturbt person to commit suicide
     
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    My knowledge of the person who killed themself is that there was absoutely no reason to think that suicide was even in their mind. It appears the person was "normal", no inclanation of wanting to self harm. Just an absolute waste of a life. I couldn't agree more about the pressures on youngsters about clothes, money etc, I think that society has to take a large part of the responsibility, too many parents having to work full time jobs just to buy a house and make ends meet, to many latch key kids coming home to no parents to welcome them in, got to have a new car, bmw merc top of the street cred list. There just seems to me that there is not enough time for family time because of the way people have to work themselves into the groung at the expense of their children's welfare.
    I know of a single mum who was being harrased by the job center to return to work when her child was about 11 years old. She said what about my child coming home to an empty house if she was to work, reply from job center get a child minder. What a pointless exercise that is.
    At the expense of children coming home to empty houses after school, does it mean that there is very little quality time for family ? Do the children, young people then not have the confidence to talk heart to heart with parents about growing up issues ? Is this the root of the problem, more likely than not from what I see.
    I could always talk to my mum rather than my dad, at least I had that opportunity, maybe the opportunity is being denied to kids who's parents are always working.
    It's just tragic that this has happened along with all the recent killings of innocents by the knife culture that surrounds society now.
    Unless we show love to our kids and really talk openly and let them know that they can talk to us parents without fear of us going off on one, then we can help them with the problems of modern society. I also think the government have to take a lot of the blame and the people who are willing o force housing costs to such extortionate prices.
    Thanks for taking time to reply to such a hard topic guys
    Sincerely
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    there is quite a bit of presure on kids, its just some deal with it better than others.
    if someone calls me a "fasion reject" (whatever that is) its just water off a ducks back....whats wrong with socks and sandals anyway.

    the stress of exams and school and whatever i get rif off with the shooting and sailing, not that i get stressed i'm as cool ans anything when it comes to it, im one of them i'll do it later people and finnish it last second.
    normally my last second work is really good if i do say so myslef

    money wise, apart from super expensive sailing bits and a T10 that seems just out of reach i will be working over summer to get those things
     
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    If there's ever a thread to make jokes in this isn't it, she probably had no friends, or really bad trouble with a boyfriend or something like that. Still, seems a little extreme ... sorry to hear about that.
     
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    thinking about it twice it wouldnt suprise me if the stress of exams or being bullied because of having a high mark and being called a swot or nerd and so on could tip some people over the edge.
    its normally a number of things that make people go over the edge and exams could easily be one of em:shrug:
     
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    What you get down when someone calls you a "boffin", lol, you take all that on the chin, however bullying could be a factor, if it's serious, would have to be pretty bad to drive someone to suicide though :eek:

    When it comes to exams, everyone's different, some people get REALLY stressed, they pull their hair out, then there are people like me who just try and keep relaxed about it all, maybe a little too relaxed.

    It's sad to see someone leave at 19, there's so much left, but it's an "escape" for someone who doesn't enjoy any minute of life.
     
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    i cant see it as an escape....i dont believe in that heave and hell malarky so i dont know if death is anyway to get out of something. :shrug:

    well this is morbid, is this airgunforum or emoforum?:rolleyes:
     
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    Well whatever happens after death puts a stop to what someone's going through, don't you think :confused: even if it's nothing, they see it as being an end to their suffering.

    p.s. I don't believe in heaven and hell either, but I try not to knock it just in case ;)
     
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    sorry to hear that mate. We will never know why people want to commit suicide because we never know what goes on in their lives. it could be a list of many things, my thoughts go out to her family, must be such a terrible thing to deal with.
     
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    [video=youtube;NTt7eCq02hM]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTt7eCq02hM[/video]
     
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    Very apt a1, time to close this thread I think Andy, life's to short to dwell on the negatives, I only hope none of us ever get to the stage where taking our own life is the only solution to our problems.
    AMEN
     
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    Yeah hugs go out to the family, I'll close this, we'll leave it here :up:
     
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