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Feral Children - How do you deal with bad parents?

Discussion in 'Get it off your chest' started by tinmanofkent, Oct 21, 2015.

  1. scarborough_flyer

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    I don't advocate smacking... i was asking asking a question... not making a statement... i have 3 girls... my eldest is 18 and i have never smacked my children either...
     
  2. Stevie Darling

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    their is a difference between being a handful and a child trying to kick the sh*te out of his mum because she refused him a a pack of sweets (witnessed) luckily the woman's brother was in the next isle and had to forcefully restrain him,

    i dont think a tickle and joke would of defused the situation!!

    she was also pregnant.
     
  3. mr_crosby

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    If you let it get like that you get all you deserve.
     
  4. BiggaJ

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    always said how strange that to take a cat from a rescue home you have to be vetted by the establishment you are buying it from yet to have kids you need a clock and balls and a willing receptacle.

    Yet to adopt you have to jump through hoops ..... where's the sense?

    Why are people that want kids not tested beforehand and given a licence to do so? Makes perfect sense to me and yes I have two kids but had I have known that their mother was completely mental after child birth I would not have had them and subject them to her.
     
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  5. Scott

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    you guys should see it when there 30 or more of the little ******** in a school playground terrorising the other kids…
    or when just one child decides to trash a classroom

    nowadays they call it ADD or ADHT, when I was a kid it wasn't called anything
    you misbehaved your old man filled you in good style and you didn't misbehave again (for a while)

    there should be an exam before certain people are allowed to procreate
     
  6. Stevie Darling

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    parents use ADHD as an excuse!!

    my youngest has his problems, ADHD being one of them, but he is better behaved than the "normal" children!!!
     
  7. Margaret13

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    I live next door to a young girl with three children under 4 they have no chance in life ...she screams and swears and I mean swear ...from morning to night ....in the four years they have lived there she has never used the garden as a garden not a toy in sight ,,and she wonders while they are bored ....the 4 year old started school this September and he has had at least four days off because she can't be bother to get him there,..... the 4 year old is already screaming I hate you to the mother so another one on the wrong road ....not everyone has children for the right reason ......and others have to pay when trying to enjoy a evening out....The shame is all children get put in the same boat , I have another family near by with three girls and you couldn't wish for nicer kids ...its showing them love and right from wrong.
     
  8. JSB888

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    I just have to stare at my little daring when he is being a s***, he soon gets the message.

    I think everyone should be temporarily sterilised at birth, and the starilisation only reversed when you prove you can look after a child. This didn't need to happen in the past, parents parented! But now, scum bags are only having loads kids though either stupidity or to get more benefits, and then they let them go feral. If they had to prove they were going to be good parents before breeding, it would slowly kill off the scum bag, benefit grabbing detritus that is dragging this country down.
     
  9. surrey shooter

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    If it was me I would of said to parents to sort them out, I have no patience for ignorant people.

    my children are not robots they have their Tantrum's but in general are well behaved and very respectful of others.
     
  10. Titchgamer

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    Theres a huge difference between smacking a child and beating a child imo.

    Ime not a parent (thankfully!) but different kids learn differently.

    When i was a **** of a kid my parents would tell me off and if i ignored that i got my arse slapped.

    Ultimately i learnt right from wrong, got a good education and a decent job.
    I learnt to respect others and have core moral values.

    On the flip side i know a lad who was beaten (black and blue sometimes) he turned out to be a violent criminal unsurprisingly.

    The difference is moderation same as most other things in life.

    Nearly everything in this world can be good or bad for you in moderation.
     
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    100% this. If I or any of my brothers starting playing up we'd get a warning... If we kept playing up we got our arses tanned! Needless to say we never did it again.
     
  12. Kyska

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    I understand, thing is everyone seems to think that the smacking prevents children from going wayward, my bets are, if a social study was conducted (it may well have been) that the children who were hit, but went on to become normally functioning members of society would of done regardless, and vice versa.

    I have no issues with reasonable chastising, I just don't agree with it in the context of my kids, I think if it comes to hitting children, the parent has lost control of the situation. I don't see any difference from assaulting someone in the street with a slap is any different to slapping a child.
     
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    How did you deal with it? I'm aware you don't have children so am curious to hear what you think they should do.
     
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    I see where your coming from but it doesn't compare to slapping someone in the street. It's very rear someone get a slap in the street for nothing they normally do something to get it and most deserve it. Not saying slapping someone is the right thing to but if you don't misbehave or have a lot mouth to someone then your not gonna get a slap are you atb
     
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    Exactly but not just the prove they can look after a child but also have the means to be able to do it long term!! that way we can slowly pay out less in benefits from the start.
     
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    As a child you never played up again? Or didn't for a short period after been 'tanned'?
     
  17. surrey shooter

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    Got a few hidings myself..
     
  18. BiggaJ

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    I share my boys with the ex however, due to the distances involved I have them every other weekend and 50% of the school holidays. It's obvious to me that they are allowed to get away with things while with their mum, things that I would not allow (I get told I am a Victorian father with Victorian ways) however, when she loses control she calls me to put it right, funny how the Victorian ways are suddenly acceptable.

    I give my boys 3 chances if they step out of line they get told and I genuinely don't care where I am and in who's company I am in, if they step out of line (you have to take into account the surroundings you are in) then they will get told, do it again and they get dragged off to a place and told again..... if (and this is very rare now) that they do it again, i carry out whatever threat I have told them I would do in the two previous conversations we have. Giving threats is all well and good but if you do not carry them out they will learn this and then they have won. Something I keep telling my ex but she is the perfect mother!!

    It's amazing how when with me for any length of time, they change to my way and we all get along incredibly well because they have boundaries. I used to advocate smacking, I'm not averse to it but there are many more ways to chastise a child before smacking them.

    As a kid I was smacked and like many I knew my boundaries and as a rule I stayed within them, got an education, got a good job and continued to move into other good jobs. Its simple if you are helped along the right path from the off.

    Also, as when I was growing up ..... I had to do chores to earn pocket money. So many parents just give money to their kids and I just don't get this. I have started to offer my two money but in return they have to give something back. Help clear the dishes, set the table, help in the garden, help wash the car ..... the list is endless but it gives them some grounding that money just doesn't come your way .... you have to earn it and this is exactly where the benefits system we have adopted in the UK is dragging us all down.

    By the way I'm not old, I'm mid 40's .... young enough to remember, old enough to know better. My kids are sub 10 and post 10 years old, both boys and both perfectly normal kids.
     
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  20. Stevie Darling

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    A bit off topic, the table manners of some children is shocking!!

    but how are they suppose to learn when maw and paw are sitting there like cows chewing the cud with their faces stuck in a phone!!
     

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