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Family weddings

Discussion in 'General chit chat' started by Margaret13, Mar 5, 2014.

  1. Margaret13

    Margaret13 Honorary Member

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    Family wedding sometimes more trouble than they are worth ..husbands niece is getting married .....but said my daughter is welcome but not other half because she can't run to extras :confused: then we have been told the wedding breakfast is being held in my husbands younger sister pub who we haven't spoke to for years ......... is it me or should people be asked in pairs
     
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    Give it a miss go & have day out at the seaside Margaret :thumb: save a few bob on that new outfit .... :D
     
  3. doodsy

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    I have to agree with Tad, give it a miss, their loss imo
     
  4. 1961nuffield

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    I think in pairs is the decent thing to do.

    John
     
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    Have to agree if my other half couldn't go I wouldnt go....atb
     
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    I had to go to my little brother's wedding, even though we don't get on. He only invited us because he thought we wouldn't accept, I think, and this would have made us the guilty party. We went, just to spite him.
     
  7. Margaret13

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    I think maybe we are only being asked because our Niece don't have a large family and half of them don't talk ...............Family's who would have them :D
     
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    families - what a pain.
    as for invitation etiquette, you should be asked as a pair, so you can then turn them down as a pair
     
  9. Happy Grumpz

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    I'm getting wed in August, invitations are a blooming nightmare!

    We're having a 'small' wedding which consists of 80 on the day and 150 on the night time.

    Every single one of ours have been sent as pairs, even friends that are single, we've put 'plus 1'

    There's nothing like a wedding to start a family argument hahaha
     
  10. Egg

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    There as a pair or I'm not there.
     
  11. Trampilot

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    Family Weddings? Aren't they all?!

    Our wedding was a small affair with just immediate relatives and some locally based friends. This was how we both wanted it and we were curbed by the size of the room and number of tables in the restaurant we wanted to eat at after. My wife had been through all the big ceremony before and had no desire to go through it again.

    We had a bigger house party for everyone else and gave people numbers of hotels if they wanted to stay and left it to them. Invitations were as pairs and we made it clear that children wouldn't be allowed.

    Thing is, we decided early on that its OUR wedding and if anyone started moaning then they didn't have to come. In the end you get married and that's the single most important thing on the day. My wife's dad is a professional moaner and we told him several times he can go home if he wants.
     
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    Its very easy to upset people by doing exactly that, inviting one and not the other.... I wouldn't worry Margaret, at leaset you know how you stand in the scheme of things. I have had to re-type this little post at least twice as I know how something like this can be upsetting, but in the end it aint worth the upset. Just think you save money on a dress and hat (suggested already) and you have one less Xmas card to write which can be a bonus.. :up: Could the saving on the dress, hat and accessories be near to the cost of a new rifle ;)
     
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    We had a massive rift in our family occur some years ago exactly because of this, One half of a pair was invited to the wedding and that person was only invited to the evening and not the actual ceremony despite being very close family (more like brother/sister than cousins), a spoilt, horrible, bitter outsider of a woman that married the cousin (now divorced) was calling the shots over loving and loyal family and the idiot stood for it!

    It's never been the same since and will never be forgotten.... I don't bother with any weddings or any family functions now unless I'm paying respects.
     
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    That just about sums up the way I see it now, and perfectly put Steve:up:
     
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    When me and the Mrs got married we wouldn't dream of inviting one half of a couple.

    Saying that, we didn't invite children as they basically cost the same as adults to bring.
     
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    Me and my wife are both from big family's where alot dont talk to each other so to save stuff like this happening we just went got married by ourselves with 2 good friends and that was that ....much easier and cheaper
     
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    That sounds a very sensible way of doing it - all that cake, speeches, first dances and the drunken uncle is so predictable and tacky it's untrue. Your day, so as far as I see it, your call.

    Good on you, ES.
     
  18. Margaret13

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    Well see what happens myself and husband have been asked and our daughter but not my daughters partner so she will not go which I don't blame her ......I will go for the main wedding part then come home keep everyone happy
     
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    I hate weddings any excuse I can find not to go I will use it, if I got married again I'd spend the money getting married on a beach somewhere nice.
     
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    Behind you! Mwhahahahah Just kidding. Christchurch
    Wait till you start the seating plan...:D
     

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